Why Can't You Lose Weight and Keep it Off?How many diets have you tried? How many pounds have you lost and gained back? How much did you weight five years ago? Ten years ago? In high school?
If you have been successful in other areas of your life, why can't you successfully lose weight and maintain a healthier and more attractive body?
Because you are in denial and refuse to step on a scale.
Because you use food to satisfy other needs and/or to calm you down.
Because you have bought into misleading advice from so-called "experts."
Because you stopped being active and it is difficult to get your body active again.
And, finally, you are overweight because there are BENEFITS to you (conscious and/or subconscious) of being as you are.
In the 1990's I was a consultant to Weight Watchers International, and I understand why most of their members either quit before reaching their goal weight, or reach it and then gain the pounds back. In the early 2000's, I was a wellness consultant for Oasis LifeSciences, and learned the importance of feedback in weight loss and maintenance. Now I use the most powerful technology available to help my clients lose weight and keep it off.
Hypnosis was accepted by the American Medical Association in 1958 as a beneficial therapeutic modality. Hypnotherapy has been discussed and recommended on the Oprah show and on the Dr. Oz show. For details about endorsements of hypnosis by experts and well-respected publications, click here.
Willpower Is Not Enough!
While most of us like to think we make our important life decisions from our conscious mind, and we are rational and logical people, this is far from the truth. If it were true, we would not be experiencing the worst epidemic of obesity in the world's history, no one would smoke and the supermarket shelves would not be lined with foods that have high calories and virtually no nutritional value.
If there is something you would really like to stop doing, or do differently, and you can't (no matter how hard you try), then that behavior is motivated from your subconscious.
Exercise is a Good Way to Lose Weight
Gyms and trainers are responsible for this myth. While I am a big fan of exercise, and have regularly attended a gym for thirty years, recent research proves exercise is not essential for weight loss, and it's sometimes counterproductive! "After the gym, let's stop and get a Frappuccino." The truth is, if you notice the calorie counter on the treadmill, elliptical trainer or stationary bike, you will realize that at best you have burned a couple hundred calories. What's that equal to? A couple of cookies? Yet, exercise is GREAT for your health and regular exercise will (to some extent) increase the calories you burn. More muscle mass equals more calories burned. Yet, those who depend upon this method to lose twenty or more pounds usually quit out of disappointment.
Here is an excellent 2015 article from the "Washington Post" on the subject of Weight Loss and Exercise.
On the other hand, I am a huge proponent of exercise for your HEALTH, even as you age. Here is an excellent article on the topic of Exercise and Aging.
Fats Make You Fat
Many years ago, food companies jumped on the "low fat/no fat" bandwagon. It seemed easy to understand that if you decrease your fat intake, you will lose weight. Has that worked? No! The truth is more complicated. First, many packaged-goods companies removed much of the fat from products like cookies--and discovered the taste suffered greatly. So, being in business to make a profit, they adjusted their recipes to make the reformulated product taste better. What did they add to compensate for the loss of the fat? SUGAR! So, in fact, they actually made these products more fattening rather than less fattening! Need proof? How many decades has it been since the food industry has been offering low-fat products? And, what has happened to our obesity rates over those decades?
Science now is more sophisticated. We know that the body NEEDS certain fats to be healthy (and slim). While eating certain types of fat should be minimized; for example, trans fats still found in some baked goods and saturated fats found in processed and grain-fed (red) meat. Yet, healthy fats can make you feel more full while cutting your calorie intake! Examples? Olive oil, coconut oil, dark chocolate, almond butter, avocado and (carefully selected) Greek yogurt. And, if you have been eating skim/no fat dairy products, try low fat versions instead. Most likely, this will help your weight loss progress; at worst, it will have no effect--other than providing more enjoyment while eating those foods! Yes, the people I work with ENJOY eating and do not feel deprived! They just naturally make healthy choices while eating smaller portions.
Your Family and Friends Can Help You Lose Weight
Isn't this true? People seem so encouraging--your spouse, parents, siblings, fellow workers--aren't they always talking about losing weight themselves? Why would I suggest to every one of my weight-loss patients that they NOT discuss losing weight with anyone? The only exception is if they are going to a person's home for a meal and have certain dietary requirements. Then I suggest that the guest tell the host/hostess in advance. So, what is wrong with getting "support" from others?
The answer is simple, in the majority of cases what you will get is subtle sabotage rather than support! Now, the exception is if the other person has no weight issue (perhaps one-third of adults at most). If those people make comments or suggestions, they will most likely be helpful. In contrast, the other two-thirds of adults will say and do things that may seem helpful or well intended, but are secretly designed to sabotage your weight loss efforts. Here are a few examples:
Do you get the picture? Here are some other examples from a recent article: How to Deal with Weight Loss Saboteurs. And, just so you know, every example above and in that article has been mentioned to me by my patients! If you are reading this, you most likely have examples of your own! So, how to deal with these situations? The answer is simple, say "no" and stick to it, or order what you want versus what the crowd is eating. In addition, if the offender is a spouse or family member, I recommend you confront that person in private: "You know I am losing weight, why would you buy/bake my favorite chocolate cake and bring it to me?" People-pleasers have difficulty saying no and speaking up for themselves, but if you fall in that category, that submissiveness and fear of confrontation are probably involved in your weight issue as well! Have no fear, I can help you with that too; enable you to take care of yourself and say no like you mean it!